When I played golf in the past (actually back about 25 years), extreme bouts of frustration would follow me around the golf course. If I made a poor shot or at least one that I felt should have been better, I would allow my frustration to build until it erupted. I am not proud of this fact, but it is something I think most golfers experience during their journey. My frustration was very much an internal thing, but it would eat away at my ability to play to a point were I had to grind out every shot. Golf was beginning to lose its luster and I actually thought about hanging up my sticks. That is until I made a decision to change!
My decision point to find serenity on the golf course was not a result of monumental moment, but an accumulation on ongoing events. I had to make a decision to change my approach to playing golf or lose my desire to play. So, I decided to change.
It was all about baby steps at the beginning and actually finding a way to make my new approach to golf a reality. Thinking back 25 years, the internet was not as prolific as it is now, so going to the library was my primary source of how to curb my frustration while playing sports.
I read several psychology books (well skimmed to the articles I needed), sports articles, and self help books. It took a year to travel far enough down my journey to be confident that my changes took hold. There was some trial and error, but because I decided to make a change I was all in.
Fast forward 25 years and I am in a great place to play golf. I rarely get frustrated to a point where it affects my game. Don’t get me wrong, I still feel frustration when I make a poor shot, but it is not lasting or lingering. It goes away just as quickly as it boils up.
My approach to golf now hovers in the realm of intent, confidence, and mindfulness. I do not dwell on the negative thoughts and choose to focus on the positive what is next while on the course. I am so happy I made the decision to change because I have enjoyed 25 years of playing the sport I love. What a blessing and how grateful am I.
Making any decision was a challenge. It causes anxiety sometimes, but taking that first step towards a better golf game was like releasing the pressure from my game. It was instantaneous, but I did notice an immediate change. As I move forward, I will continue to enjoy my game and be grateful I made that tough decision so many years ago.
I am a grateful golfer! See you on the links!