If You Don’t Want The Answer…..

Teaching golf is challenging!

I know you can finish the start of this question. I have lived by the following thought for most of my life. I can honestly admit, that I have done this and some responses have really caused me to think:

Never ask a question if you are not prepared for an honest answer!

I believe we learn from asking questions; it helps expand our knowledge and understanding of a specific topic and it also can guide us on making changes in the future. There are many aspect to asking questions, but regardless, we must be prepared to hear something unexpected.

In golf, this is absolutely true. Many people have asked me questions about playing golf and I can say without hesitation that at least half did not like the answer. They were polite, but immediately disregarded my view because it was not what they wanted to hear. Over the years I have developed a thick skin as to their reaction, but I am always open to a golf conversation.

Recently, I have asked a few questions and received some honest replies. Specifically, Brian and Kevin (regular readers of The Grateful Golfer) provide honest answers and recommendations for next year. Both suggest that seeing a professional is important and I know they are right. Even with a 5 handicap, I have a few swing issues that I need help solving. So, I will follow Brian and Kevin’s advice and see help from a local golf professional early in next year’s season. Thanks guys, I am grateful for the help!

Golf is not unique. Asking questions is important to expanding our knowledge and understanding of this great game. It can be a shock to our system sometimes, but if we approach our research with an open mind and a willingness to change, then great thinks can happen on the course. What is your burning golf question you are afraid to ask?

I am a grateful golfer! See you on the links!

Written by Jim Burton from The Grateful Golfer blog.

6 thoughts on “If You Don’t Want The Answer…..

  1. Jim, you are so on point with the question thing. I’ll bet most of the responses people don’t want to hear are about how to improve their game, right? They’d rather go buy a $400 driver than take instruction, practice, play, and do the hard work to get better. But that’s the honest answer.

    BTW, good decision on the lessons thing and best of luck in the spring. I know it’ll work out for you!


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      • Jim, a fool with a tool is still a fool. I was playing with a guy yesterday who told me about a recent driver fitting he had. It took him two sessions of 2.5 hours each. I was thinking, “Who was the fool who had you hitting drivers for two and a half hours? You must have been exhausted.” Details, details, details. They are everywhere!


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      • Brian,

        I agree. I recently hit drivers for 15 minutes at Golf Town. After that time, I was able to narrow my selection of drivers. After hitting 50+ balls, I was tired and realized that they were all about the same. No advantage by any of the big brands. Through this 15 minutes, I realized my old driver works just fine, I need to work on my swing (as we discussed over the past few days).


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  2. I think that the biggest differences between mediocre, good, and pro golfers is the amount of help they seek and the work they put in.

    Pro’s, even though they know more than us amatuers about the mechanics of their swing don’t try to fix things by themselves.

    I wasted years dismissing that simple fact. And my game has always suffered from it. Yes I got better, but how much faster I could have done it and how much better a golfer I could now be had I sought help earlier, I’ll never know.

    It’s the one piece of advice I can give that I am sure is always correct. Even to a player such as yourself that is better than me.

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    • Kevin

      Help is always welcome if you are an athlete looking to improve. Sometimes it comes from the most unusual places, but most of the time it is a process of asking questions and listening. I agree with you, no matter your skill level, learning never stops.



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