Active Support On and Off The Golf Course

For the past 4 months, I have actively fought against my lymphoma and I believe I am winning. To date, all the tests indicate that I am once again beating back the beast and will be heading to the links sometime in the future. Of course, it is way too early to jump to conclusions, but any positive sign gives me hope. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned to date, and what is important for people to understand, is that active support for the person and their family is as valuable as any positive test result. Let me explain.

As this is the second time around for this medical setback, my wife and I have a process and a healthy lifestyle already in place. This lifestyle requires constant attention, but the FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) is lessened because we now understand and acknowledge many aspects of my disease. Without going into any great detail about the process, there is an important part of healing that is critical to my mental and physical well-being. It is the active support from family, friends, and surprisingly some strangers. For that I am grateful.

I want to point out a special group of 4 gentlemen at my home course of Osprey Links. Some I have only known for two years and others for many more. Jimmy, Mike, Ted and Mikey sent me a picture last Friday. It was random and out of the blue, but it really made my day. These gentlemen offered their active support in the following way:

Active support of a friend in need!

Knowing I cannot play (likely for the rest of the season), they all marked their golf balls with my initials as a show of active support for my battle. They also drop me notes and texts out of the blue; they are making a real effort and for that, I am very grateful. I wanted to acknowledge and thank these guys for making my days just a bit brighter.

I am blessed to have the support of many people on and off the course. My friends and family regularly drop me notes to say hi. They are my rock. Happily, I also receive notes of encouragement from acquaintances and people I did not even realize knew what was happening. It really is quite overwhelming. Again, I am grateful.

The point of all this today is: I encourage you to be an active supporter. Not necessarily of me, but of whoever is in your three-foot space. There are many challenges in our lives and the lives of the people we know. Sometimes all it takes is a quick hello, a picture of golf balls, or a smiley face out of the blue that makes all the difference. It is a small thing to you but can change the world of the person struggling to keep their head above water.

I wish you all an awesome Monday! I hope your day is full of joy, smiles and laughter.

I am a grateful golfer! See you on the links!

(Editor’s Note: Remember to check on your ‘strong’ friends! They need active support too.)

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2 thoughts on “Active Support On and Off The Golf Course

  1. I lost my wife to lung cancer almost 20 years ago leaving me with a 10 year old son and a daughter that was still 6 days shy of turning two. I too had the support necessary to make it bearable. For the past two years I’ve been paying back some of that help after my mother in law had a stroke. In fact I was there tonight like I am every weekend getting her meds set up for the week and helping her put in her eye drops for glaucoma so she doesn’t loose more of her sight.

    Your friends are special people as is your family. And I can relate with how blessed you feel. I am happy to know you have such a great group of people around you. Your message tonight is one we all need to take to heart.

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    • Kevin

      Thanks for sharing. Sorry for your loss. That was a tough road you travelled. Most people are afraind of saying the wrong thing and end upnsayung nothing. That is actuaĺly worse in my opinion. I am very grateful for the people in my life.

      Cheers Jim

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